how soon is too soon?

It's really hard to know what to do. In general. Just what to do. I'm not waiting for Spencer on his mission because we agreed that wasn't a good idea for us. But when do I start dating again? I've been on one date but it was weird (see earlier post about not trying to get engaged) but when is it okay to start really dating a lot of other people and flirting? I know that since we agreed not to wait, it should already be an okay thing, right? Wrong! Well, maybe right, I don't know. It all just feels wrong. Maybe it will be better when I move to provo and the guys I'm talking to aren't guys he knows? They should really have a boy prep class in high school that focuses on emotional common courtesies and social norms and just how to do the emotion thing right. Help.